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Wednesday, 16 May 2012

  • What I used to do...

    Back in the days when I used to have so much free time on my hands, being bored to death, I would go into xanga and read about people's lives. I would do it so often that I even start having favourites. Since then, I neither had the time or if I did, i found better things to do, like go out with my boyfriend. I have to say, it's quite a rare event in general, about twice a week most weeks.

    I have been so absolutely consumed by my work, studies and goals that I have lost my passion for anything else. Since I have graduated from my undergrad degree, all I thought about was how to build a career for myself, how do I find what I like to do, and how to earn loads of money doing it. I worried about finding a boyfriend, finding friends (I've had so many friendship troubles in the past few years and I can't seem to trust people as much as I used to), when to settle and get married.

    During that time, I did realize and solve most of what I was worrying about. Entered into postgrad school, found a decent career path, met a wonderful guy. I can't say that it was smooth sailing for any of the mentioned, but for most, it was quite pleasant.

    I don't know what has changed me recently, but I do feel like I have changed somehow. I started blogging again, I started reading other people's blogs, and I did find some perspective.

    I realized that with every relationship that I have had, every guy that I've been with, I would always morph myself into someone else to suit them, without realizing. Sometimes, I am even overly accommodating. I would accept things that I would usually get annoyed about.

    It's strange, somehow, even though I'm with him now, I am finding more of myself everyday. Maybe because he gives me so much freedom and I find that I have so much free time to figure out what I want to do. It could be bad too, maybe he gives me so much free time that I'm changing too quickly into someone that he doesn't know.

    But I actually find this quite enjoyable. Memories of my past gives me a feeling of such peace and serenity. I think I'm discovering the old me again.

    I have finally stopped stressing about his career, his family, the relationship. I have finally started concentrating on myself.

    I think behind the scenes, someone triggered this side of me. Because this person was so much like me, thought like me, did everything that I wanted to do, sees the same goals, same dreams. Even personality wise, we are similar. Until it came to crunch time, I really didn't realize how annoying I truly was or maybe how annoying I have become.

    Xoxo

Tuesday, 15 May 2012

  • A desire for adventure!

    I have decided that I want to travel in Jan- Feb 2013! At the moment, my plans are to travel to Northern Thailand for about 10 days and then to HK for about 7 days!

    "Soak up the dynamic vibe of Bangkok city, Try fried bugs at the Sukhothai night market, Explore Lampang's enchanting ruins by bike, Watch elephants bathing in the jungle, Enjoy a traditional khantohk dinner , Discover adventure and relaxation in Chiang Mai, Travel from Chiang Mai to Bangkok on an overnight train"

    It travels from Bangkok to Sukhothai to Lampang to Chiang Mai back to Bangkok! It will give me 2 days at the end to explore around Bangkok before going to Hong Kong to rest and see my family. ^_^

    It's going to be EXCITING! A whole new step for me since I have never been to Thailand and not with family!

    I was inspired by someone i met at work yesterday! She was from Italy on a working holiday visa and she had traveled to China for 4 months, Indonesia for 3 months, Malaysia for 2 months and a bunch of other places! Listening to her adventures made me want to explore and try new things too :)

    It has been a while since I've last travelled and I had long lost the spark for life. It was not until yesterday that inspiration took me and my mind started wondering, feeling my head with dreams. I feel that I've been way too serious for far too long!

    Walking quietly down a path

    Sun sparkling between leaves overhead

    Suddenly

    A white rabbit jumps onto my path

    Beckoning me to follow

    Taking me to its home

    With its family inside

    Welcoming me to join in play

    Exciting discoveries brings a smile to my face

    Thanks :)

     

     

Saturday, 12 May 2012

  • Realisation

    I have been thinking about myself lately, of my thoughts, my actions and the decisions that I have made. I have transported myself back in time, of the time I was fresh out of high school with so many hopes and dreams, with future uncertainties and worries, but I remember standing there with so much courage and had such a fighting spirit that nothing really phased me all that much. At the time, I knew who I wanted to be and what I wanted.

    It has been many years since then, and I look back now, wondering whether if I had known the person I would be at 25, whether I would be proud of myself.

    My answer would be yes, and a no. Yes that I fought through so many battles and never gave up, that I took such courage to make changes for myself and for my family.

    But in many ways, it was also a no. I realized that I had lost my way, especially in how I have dealt with relationships. I have lost so much of my morals and ethics. If I had heard some of the stuff that I would have done when I was 17 of the me in the future, I would be horrified. That thought really scares me.

    But all I can do is move forward, and hope that I would find my way this time, and be more mature, wiser and smarter about things. I always fought against time, but at the same time, I ignored myself. So all I ended up doing was hitting brick walls, time and time again.

    I also realized the reason behind my quick decision making. I make decisions so suddenly and act on them so swiftly that i really dont have any time to stop and think. I am too idealistic, my ambition and drive is fueled by my hopes and dreams. When I see a picture so clearly, I take it and run with it. It becomes all I can see.

    But as quickly as I do in seeing that picture, just as quickly, I see the ending to that same picture, I lose hope or my hope falters, and I give it up just as swiftly as I had picked it up.

    Suddenly, that explains why there are so many dead ends. It's because when I see an ending, I never really gave it much time to see what happens after, I have never tried persevering or tried finding solutions to make sure there are no dead ends. I always just accept it as it is.

    Almost for every decision that I have made to give up on something, it is because I have lost hope. I never really got too hurt by anything because as soon as my hope falters, I create reasonable doubt for my heart to let go long before anything truly bad happens. I step backwards without realizing, and my heart climbs out of that place before it falls too deep.

    Perhaps people are right, I have no emotional connection with anything. Because unfortunately, as quickly as my head make decisions, just as quickly, my heart acts on it.

    In rare occasions, my head fights with itself. One side tells me that I should give up, the other one fights back and says 'so what if it is like that, it can still work', but that may be the stubborn and naive side talking. Maybe that's what people mean by 'emotional attachment'.

    I don't think I can be as careless as I used to be anymore in my decision making. I have ran out of time. I truly think I have exhausted all the time I had acting with such irresponsibility.

    However, I hope that if I am ever stubborn in the future, I won't stand to regret it either.

    Xoxo



Sunday, 22 April 2012

  • Thoughts

    I always feel like i'm on a constant roller coaster, one minute, I am the happiest girl alive, then the next second, it plummets at an exponential rate. How do i achieve stability and harmony, and not reach hyper inflation or deflation, when a particular event rocks my world. Similar to the world economy, when one country suffers, it impacts another one. Look at the Europe situation right now with Greece's rapid decline and economic uncertainty, it is in recession, and its impacting its surrounding countries, especialy the ones that is dependent on its economic strength, it's contagious. Sometimes, I feel like my life goes on a similar wavelength, but I don't have the IMF to bail me out, or other countries really helping me.

    Sometimes, as uncertain as i am, I find that I can only depend on myself, my internal strength. Perhaps i don't tolerate weakness or that I don't know how to handle it, or maybe it's the understanding that it is not constructive, that my strength, somehow, carries others. You may interpret this internal quality as being cold hearted, or having a sense of discare. My sisters says that I have no emotional attachment to things that should be important to me. Perhaps that is true, but how is that beneficial to myself or to others if I cry uncontrollably on the floor.

    I once again recall what a wise manager had said to me before, that in times of stress, when mistakes are made, say sorry, and that you will take more care in the future and won't make the mistake again. Don't cry, don't give excuses, because it shows that you have either no confidence in yourself or your task at hand, or that you are someone who is stubborn and refuses to learn. Both of which, are a negative attribute. Perhaps, applying the same doctrine to other areas of my life, it is easy to see why others will misunderstand me.

    As years passes on, I no longer let many events shake me, or put me in a place of stress and unease. At times when the possibility of it is great, I step outside and look at it from a third party's point of view. I become objective. Or perhaps, I have had so many events that rocked my boat, that I simply became immuned to most of life's ups and downs.

    Sometimes i wonder about my instincts and the decisions that I make. I always seem to be so certain about my decisions, but in time, it becomes more clear that I was probably wrong. Yet, time after time again, I continue to do so, with so much hope and faith. Maybe what will bring my downfall is my enthusiasm and optimism in the world, because the world is no longer innocent, it is a war, that you must fight or die trying. At least my enthusiasm seems to be fighting it. I know a lot of people who are my age, by now, would have accepted the fact that the world is a cruel place. Maybe that's why they find my nature so inspiring. I wonder if i'm trying to inspire myself, because i refuse the accept the world's cruelty, maybe i'm hiding because i'm scared to face it as it is.

    It is simply easier to live with optimism, with hope, then wake up each day feeling a sense of dread.

    I just hope that the decisions i have made, and the decisions that i will make, is the right one.

    Because I really am tired of it all, and I'm not sure I can handle more disappointments in life. I know I bring it on myself, but I hate regret more than disappointments.  

Saturday, 17 September 2011

  • dreams

    I feel a satisfied sense of wellbeing at the moment, a sense that every part of life is at equilibrium, perfect at every way and every turn. Things are very good, i admit, but i know i can't keep it up for long, not if i want to get promoted at work, not if i want to live life more, working part time just doesn't suffice for what i want in life at the moment.

    I have decided that i want to be a private banker, but i can't be one without being a lender first. My manager and colleague are talking about making me the savings specialist, which means that a few months of that, i can train to be a lender. That's when things are at an end. I can't be a lender, unless i am full time and 100% committed. But at the same time, i don't really want to sacrifice uni. I need my degree, i need my masters.

    So how do i work full time and do masters, without sacrificing too much (so doing two subjects at the very least), and still sleep?

    I feel like there is only one solution, which is to move closer to work, so i don't spend 45min during peak hour to go to work, and taking that long to go home. 45min isn't a lot really, however when i finish uni at 9pm, and there are no buses and no trains, it takes me close to 2 hours. It is exhausting, and impossible to do if i have to wake up at 6 30am again. If i live closer to work, i will be able to wake up later, go home easier (hopefully get home by 10pm), and still get to work refreshed with time to do uni stuff. I'm not sure whether it is a good idea yet, since once i go, i can't exactly go back home. I also know that i can't possibly take my dog with me. Dilemmas...

    But i also realise at the moment that i have really great management. They are willing to help me reach my goals quicker and with more support than i could ever fathom at present. I know my manager won't be staying for that much longer, and if i don't maximise my opportunities, it will as easily go by without a thought. I can do uni any time, but to be a lender normally takes years, at least 3 years. However, if I take this opportunity, i can see myself being a lender by mid next year. A degree can't even escalate me any faster, but work experience can.

    I don't know whether i should be immature and carefree and enjoy the fact that i have this much freedom now.

    Or should I be an adult, take the opportunity, no matter how hard, and don't stop trying.

    I am scared to move out.. even though i have always talked about it..

    I really don't know how i should think right now about it ..All will be clear in time.

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